Should you ever interfere?

Including when it seems like the noble thing to do?

I’ve noticed a pattern in my life. It has to do with interfering. Like, convince the home schooling mom whose kids are actually alone all day, and teaching themselves, in primary school, to put her kids in school.

Then all hell breaks loose and you feel you need to remove your own kids from the school for their safety.

That kind of thing.

It happens in family dynamics, too. In the workplace. In social settings. In nature.

I’m a gardener and I wonder how much damage I do in my position as overlord. I have been known to destroy hornet nests because they eat the bees. I’ve brought in parasitic larvae to eat coddling moth from the apple trees. I’ve impaled a lot of slugs because they’re eating baby plants. And there’s nothing I love more than a seedling struggling to survive.

And then there’s weeding. I decide who stays who goes -to a point…and I confess I always leave a few of each medicinal weed variety in my yard, never entirely wiping them out. I get rid of invasive weeds altogether when I can.

But how invasive are they? I wonder how many native North American plants aren’t actually native? But they’ve been here long enough, been invasive long enough, that we’re sure they belong here.

What’s the line to draw? Especially when it comes to the important stuff like jobs and family dynamics. And then it goes further. What’s the difference between interference and making a choice or decision on any topic?

I’ve never had a hard time making decisions. But I think I understand now how crippling it can be for some people.

Is this a form of karma?

See the plantain weed growing between the cracks in my walkway?

I confess, I’ve become superstitious and I rarely do any do-good deeds anymore. I’ve been bit too many times or caused someone else to be harmed by my altruistic behavior.

Am I superstitious or a coward? Selfish?

Or have I discovered what will happen will happen, whether I interfere or not? Is it pretty arrogant of me to think I’m the one who convinced that mom to put her kids into school? Probably.

Mostly, I think what will happen will happen.
Then again, maybe I’m just shirking responsibility.

The advice is to take a stand and write from one perspective only. Every time you place your fingers on the keyboard, or put pen to paper. That’s how you get readers!

Oh well. I just can’t do that. At least not right now. I’m far too interested in having an active, fit mind, that can see into all the cobwebs, and then mull over whether to clear them out or not.

What do you think?

Take care,
Chwynyn

PS my front teeth were badly damaged in a bike accident as a kid. I even wonder if I should interfere with that. Invisalign: yay or nay?

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